Dudley’s Song

“I believe much trouble and blood would be saved if we opened our hearts more.”
― Chief Joseph―

Love Yourself Fearlessly: The Dance of Anger

Love Yourself Fearlessly: The Dance of Anger

An excellent blog about anger…it’s effects, reality, and a healthy perspective towards balance! Enjoy!

An Ordinary Tendency

image“In the beginning you told each other, ‘I cannot live without you. My happiness depends on you.’ You made declarations like that. But when you are angry, you say the opposite: “I don’t need you! Don’t come near me! Don’t touch me!’ You prefer to go into your room and lock the door. You try your best to demonstrate that you don’t need the other person. This is a very human, very ordinary tendency. But this is not wisdom.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh-

Loving Speech and Deep Listening

ImageThe 4th of the Five Mindfulness Trainings

Loving Speech and Deep Listening

Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and the inability to listen to others, I am committed to cultivating loving speech and compassionate listening in order to relieve suffering and to promote reconciliation and peace in myself and among other people, ethnic and religious groups, and nations. Knowing that words can create happiness or suffering, I am committed to speaking truthfully using words that inspire confidence, joy, and hope. When anger is manifesting in me, I am determined not to speak. I will practice mindful breathing and walking in order to recognize and to look deeply into my anger. I know that the roots of anger can be found in my wrong perceptions and lack of understanding of the suffering in myself and in the other person. I will speak and listen in a way that can help myself and the other person to transform suffering and see the way out of difficult situations. I am determined not to spread news that I do not know to be certain and not to utter words that can cause division or discord. I will practice Right Diligence to nourish my capacity for understanding, love, joy, and inclusiveness, and gradually transform anger, violence, and fear that lie deep in my consciousness.

 *Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s translation of the 5 basic precepts as taught by the Buddha Shakyamuni

Photo found on Pinterest via: Kate Armstrong

Reverence for Life

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The 1st of the Five Mindfulness Trainings

Reverence for Life

Aware of the suffering caused by the destruction of life, I am committed to cultivating the insight of interbeing and compassion and learning ways to protect the lives of people, animals, plants, and minerals. I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill, and not to support any act of killing in the world, in my thinking, or in my way of life. Seeing that harmful actions arise from anger, fear, greed, and intolerance, which in turn come from dualistic and discriminative thinking, I will cultivate openness, non-discrimination, and non-attachment to views in order to transform violence, fanaticism, and dogmatism in myself and in the world.

*Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s translation of the 5 basic precepts as taught by the Buddha Shakyamuni

*Artist: Wilfred Lang,  piece: New York Heights

A River Flows in YOU

Note to my essence: “Life is so precious, yet in our daily lives we are usually carried away by our forgetfulness, anger, and worries, lost in the past, unable to touch life in the present moment. When we are truly alive, everything we do or touch is a miracle. To practice mindfulness is to return to life in the present moment.” ~Thich Nhat Hahn~

cellist: Leron Zamir Forte

*Leron Zamir Forte is a rising cellist who hails from Dallas, TX. Mr. Forte has performed extensively in the southeast region as well as being a studio cellist. He has made appearances with the MTSU Symphony, the Sewanee Symphony, and Roy “Futureman” Wooten’s Black Mozart Ensemble.

*an excerpt from his website:
http://leronzamirforte.weebly.com/

The Forbearance of Being True

ImageA friend of mine lately has inspired me by sharing their personal truth. Though this isn’t the time or the place to share that story, I would like to share how it etched something so deeply in my soul that for the first time in my life I am not afraid. I am not afraid of what has been, what is, or what will come. It is because of one simple truth I heard through his life. No matter what we are faced with in this lifetime or in the next as long as we can stand in the power of forbearance being true to our inner selves we will be able to endure anything because nothing can change our essence.

Looking up the meaning of the word forbear, you come across ‘to refrain from’ and ‘to be patient or self-controlled.’ Forbearance means the act of forbearing; a refraining of something; forbearing conduct or quality; patient endurance; self-control. On January 1st, I wrote a post called Honoring My Essence. The first lesson in that process for me is forbearance. When I look mindfully and deeply inside, I can see that I have let my personal suffering, sorrows, and negativity slowly erode my awareness so that I became dull. I have denied or ignored certain illusions in my life connected to anger, resentment, and bitterness causing a delay in my growth. I have done this so often that it has become a repeated pattern that finely lays within every atom, molecule, cell, tissue, organ, muscle, and living system in my being. It wasn’t until someone reached out in love to me and openly shared their truth that it could finally be lodged from my unconscious and brought to light.

Now I can take the first steps towards the forbearance of being true to my essence knowing that I have nothing to fear.

I would like to end this post on a meditation from Deng Ming-Dao that waters the seeds of trust.

Arctic breath coils the mountain,

Rattling the forest’s bones.

Raindrops cling to branches:

Jewelled adornment flung to earth.

Trees in winter lose their leaves. Some trees may even fall during storms, but most stand patiently and bear their fortune.

They endure rain, snow, wind, and cold. They bear the adornment of glycerin raindrops, glimmering icicles, or crowns of snow without care. They are not concerned when such lustrous splendor is dashed to the ground. They stand, and they wait, the power of their growth apparently dormant. But inside, a burgeoning is building imperceptibly.

Theirs is the forbearance of being true to their inner natures. It is with this power that they withstand both the vicissitudes and adornment of life, for neither bad fortune nor good fortune will alter what they are. We should be the same way. We may have great fortune, or bad, but we should patiently bear both. No matter what, we must always be true to our inner selves.

~Deng Ming-Dao~

*photo by Stephan Bruhl 

http://500px.com/photo/7180241

Soul Seeds

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“Anger is in us in the form of a seed. The seeds of love and compassion are also there. In our consciousness, there are many negative seeds, and many positive seeds. The practice is to avoid watering the negative seeds, and to identify and water the positive seeds every day.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh-

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