The Pain of Being Pruned


“Trust is my strength…and from trust I live.”

-Hermann Hesse

This hurts…terribly. Being pierced in the heart. Cracking open. Raw vulnerability.  Dying a slow death. Being pruned time and time again.

Pema Chödrön describes a time in her life when she had the following quote pinned to her wall, “Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.” She shares that even before she heard of Buddhist teachings she knew this to be the spirit of true awakening.

When you’re suffering it can be so paralyzing that you wonder if you will ever have a chance for happiness. Change has a way of seeping into our lives whether we’re ready or not.

Chödrön depicts it as “Letting ourselves be nailed to the present moment.” This has been my experience…and it has left me with two possibilities either to let it harden me or to walk through the portal towards self-compassion. What happens next is a good question. That is where the strength of trust kicks in…it is the difference between being alive and living.

8 thoughts on “The Pain of Being Pruned

    • Thank you dear Harula. Deeply grateful for your encouragement. 🙏🌸🌿 I don’t know if anyone is ever entirely free from suffering…there is always something in our lives that spurs growth. However, with mindful practice and focus we become immersed in that inner oasis of peace. Chödrön writes: “As Sogyal Rinpoche puts it, we simply ‘bring our mind back home.'” That is what I would like to cultivate.😊🌿🌸


      • Lovely thought…reminds me of the Ram Das quote, ‘We’re all just walking each other home.’ I agree, I don’t know if anyone’s ever entirely free from suffering (but we can aspire!), and it can indeed be a spur for growth. Hugs, H xxx

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